Divorce can be a confusing and tiresome experience, whether it is a mutual one or not.
Ending a marriage can lead to many questions and doubts about love, relationships, and more, which you don’t have answers for instantly.
Moreover, it is tough to handle everything after divorce, but channelizing your behavior and getting some perspective can help you with the pain.
Remember, it’s not the end of life and you have the power to move on. Here are a few things that you need to avoid while going through the post-divorce phase.
1. Indulge in impulsive behavior
If you think getting a tattoo or navel piercing will make you happy, we have bad news. Avoid stress-shopping as you will end up sad in your new dress. Thinking before doing anything is advisable for every situation, especially after you are newly single.
2. Make sadness your friend
Well, you have real friends and family to share your thoughts with. If you feel the need to seek professional help, then without any second thought, opt for it. Not talking about your feelings will only make you sink more in the sadness pit. Do whatever makes you feel good – go for a vacation, take a few days off from work, or cry your heart out.
3. Oversharing is over
No matter how much you think expressing yourself on social media will blow off the steam, it won’t. If you are tempted to pen down your divorce all over Instagram or Facebook, stop right away. Sharing details about your personal life with people on social media will only lead to gossip.
4. Cutting the ties
Staying in and watching rom coms with ice cream and avoiding gatherings will help you for a few nights to avoid your ex-spouse. Blaming yourself or your ex about the present will only make you bitter. Going to birthday parties or family events will give you a much-needed break and a whiff of fresh air.
5. Not taking care of yourself
You are the only person who will have your back forever. Diving in the pool of alcohol and sadness, forgetting the things you generally enjoy, will not lead you to move on. Focusing on yourself will help you more. Go to the gym, go on a solo trip, learn a new skill, do whatever makes you happy.
6. Dating the way out
If you think having casual dates or flings will help you move on, stop right there. Stay away from thoughts like “true love is just around the corner,” “your soulmate is seeking you.” No, it’s not true. Learn to handle the situation and accept the present, no matter how long it takes, and don’t date to avoid your feelings.
7. Asking to choose
Handle the divorce maturely when it comes to maintaining relations with your in-laws or your ex’s friends. You two can still have a healthy relationship with in-laws or visit your friends on festivals. Don’t force or ask the kids to choose between you two. Honesty is the best way when it comes to telling the kids about the divorce. Help the kids to channel their emotions.