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Top 5 things you shouldn’t do when your partner cheats

5 things you shouldnt do when your partner cheats

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Top 5 things you shouldn’t do when your partner cheats

Whether your partner makes out with someone else or has a months-long affair, being cheated on hurts.

But that doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t worth repairing, a choice that is yours alone to make.

There will always be those friends and family who insist that you leave, but only you can decide what’s right for you.

And while infidelity is painful, a relationship does usually get better when people are committed and they are working hard to establish a trust and are truly remorseful.

Below are five things you shouldn’t do when your partner cheats.

1. Don’t ignore the infidelity

You might be tempted to act as if nothing happened because it feels less painful, but if you do, any resentment you have will likely fester, and what’s more, you won’t address the underlying problems in the relationship. The most important thing is to understand the meaning of the infidelity, because many, many times it’s a reflection on the satisfaction in the relationship. Cheating really happens in a kind of attempt by the cheater to bring some attention to the problems in the relationship.

2. Don’t blame yourself

You have to know that someone cheating on you is not your fault. You are not responsible for it, you didn’t deserve it, and if your partner crossed lines instead of communicating their needs to you lovingly, or breaking off the relationship, that’s on them, not you. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to understand those needs and meet them if you want to salvage the relationship and of course, they have to do the same for you.

3. Don’t try to get even

It might make you feel better momentarily to trash your no-good cheating partner on social media, or to trash their car. Okay, that one might make you feel better for more than a moment. You might even get a rush from cheating on them, too. But evening the score will not solve the underlying problem. It won’t even bring you both to love each other again even if you both later decide to dedicate yourselves to recovering from the violation of one another’s trust.

4. Don’t bring up the infidelity to win unrelated arguments

The fact that he cheated doesn’t give you the right to beat him up endlessly or bring his infidelity out as your trump card every time you get into another argument. You have to be willing to let it go if you want to move on. This means that when you are arguing about how you didn’t tell them you would be out with friends all weekend, you don’t insert a “Well, at least I didn’t cheat on you” into the conversation.

5. Don’t rush the healing process

Your partner’s betrayal could hurt in the same ways for the same reasons for a long time. Be patient with yourself as you process, and let your partner know that they need to be patient with you, too. It’s very important for the person who had an affair to understand that their partner is devastated and that it’s difficult to put things back together.

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